Love Who Loves You

'Love who loves you' they say, as if its as simple as that. If we all could love who truly loves us, there wouldn't be any broken hearts now would there!

Love, for me is not a planned thing, I don't sit up at night and say" I feel I'm gonna love Tom yes!" and wake to find myself totally in love with Tom, nor do I stop loving Harry simply by wanting to or because I heard I should. I can't help whom I love nor can I control the amount that I share. Honestly, I have tried to love someone whom I was not in love with, because they were good for me and they genuinely loved me, but my heart was not into it, there was no connection, no passion, or joy at least on my part. So why then would I love that person...because they loved me,,,NO, no, can't do, nor can I pretend, Why should I when I could simply love who I love.

I also do not believe that you can 'grow to love someone'. You might grow to care, understand, or appreciate, but not love(at least other than the fact God said we should love everyone) In time you may grow to love their kindness towards you or the love being showed to you, but you won't grow in love with them,,,If you could have, they wouldn't have that term 'falling in love' now would they. I have never heard anyone say "well we grew in love, or we're growing in love, or even Jack grew in love with me..." cause you just don't, You fall in love, it takes you by surprise. You never plan to fall, you just find yourself flat on your face, bruised knees and all, Same with Love. If by chance you are one of the exceptions that grow to love, It can not and never could be compared to the love experienced by those who fell in love. You do not grow to Love, your love Grows, at least to my own understanding. If I am in love with you my love for you will grow, If I'm not in love with you, I will not grow to, I might get attached, accustom or tolerant but not in love.

So my conclusion to this is simple,,,
Follow your heart, what is to be will always be, There is nothing more fulfilling than sharing your life with the person that you've decided to give your heart to, whether its healthy for you or not. There are a lot of ppl I know who are with someone that they are not in love with, But the latter Loves them and treats them very well, and yet stiill, they lead miserable lives, unhappy, because their heart isn't there!!! But all in all this is only my point of view.